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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Christianity and Divorce

If you are considering a Christian divorce attorney, a Christian divorce lawyer, Christian divorce mediators, or just need Christian divorce help, we ask you to consider Christian Divorce Services. We do not promote divorce, we only deal with the harsh realities of it when reconciliation has failed. If divorce has become unavoidable, we want to help the people going through it avoid the damage associated with litigation, to grow in their faith, and to trust the redemptive power of the Lord. To that end, we offer a process for a non litigated final and binding:


•Divorce, Dissolution, Separation, or Annulment


•Post Decree Changes and Amendments


•Professional Support Services: Accounting, Legal, Financial Planning and Tax


•Divorce Care Support Programs


•Divorce Support Groups


•Counseling Services


•Prayer Team to support you


•Specialists in small business divorce issues


•Specialists in Military divorce issues


We resolve all the same issues a trial based court proceeding would, without court litigation; including:

Developing the most effective Christian parenting plans,


•Dividing assets without fighting,


•Valuing pension plans with a neutral actuary (including military pensions),


•Developing support payment schedules that both sides will agree are fair,


•Developing custody and visitation schedules that meet the best interest of the children and parents,


•Understanding small business and executive compensation issues, etc.

 


We can help you even if you have already hired lawyers and started a litigation process!!


 

When Reconciliation Has Failed, What is the Proper Christian Response to Marital Conflict?

 

 

COMMON RESPONSES TO CONFLICT IN DIVORCE AND OTHER ISSUES: 

Suicide 

This is when a person takes their own life and it is always wrong. It is God's job to decide when to take you. 

1 Sam. 31: 4-5 

Escape Response

 

Flight

 Leave the problem and never look back. It has limited applicability to an on going dispute because it does not actually resolve the problem.

1 Sam. 19: 9-10 

Escape Response 

 

Denial

"Ignore it and it will go away". This also has
limited applicability to an on going dispute
because it does not actually resolve the problem,
which usually won't go away on it's own.

 

Escape Response  

 

Overlook it

One of the parties specifically decides to forgive the trespass of the other regardless of what the other party decides, and thus walks away from the dispute. 

Prov. 19:11; 12:16; 17:14;
1 Peter 4:8;
Col. 13:13

Peacemaking
Response 

 

Discussion

The parties come together, pray for God's Holy Spirit to bring them wisdom, and they resolve the issues through confession & confrontation of the issues.

Matt. 18:15; 5:23-24; Gal. 6:1-3; Prov. 28:13 

Peacemaking
Response

 

Negotiation

 The parties bargain and settle the issues through trade-off's, exchanges, promises, and understandings

Phil. 2:3-4 

Peacemaking
Response 

 

Mediation

 A neutral mediator meet with the parties to assist and guide the them to a resolution that they both agree is acceptable to them. A decision is not forced. Agreement is reached only if both parties are satisfied. A subject matter expert is often chosen to mediate. In the USA, this is done under the Uniform Mediation Act (UMA) and is a substitute for litigation.  The resulting agreement is filed with the court and becomes an order of the court with the same force as an order that resulted from litigation.

Matt. 18:16; 

Peacemaking
Response

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Divorce Services
Area of
Expertise

Arbitration

 Each party tells their side of the story, and like a judge, the arbitrator renders a legally final and binding decision. In the USA, this is done under the Federal (and state) Arbitration Act and is a substitute for litigation.  The result is filed with the court and becomes an order of the court with the same force as an order that resulted from litigation.

1 Cor. 6:1-5

Peacemaking
Response

Christian
Divorce Services
Area of
Expertise

Church
Discipline

When a Christian party refuses to do what is right, the other party takes the issue to the church which can take discipline up to excommunication (treating the party like a heathen).  If this fails, Christian Mediation or Arbitration is the appropriate response.

Matt. 18: 17-20 

Peacemaking
Response

 

Litigation

The parties sue each other in the secular court system. The Judge substitutes his decision for your wisdom and forces an outcome upon the parties. One or both parties are often dissatisfied with the outcome. Biblically wrong approach.

1 Cor. 6:5-8 (directive against this action)

Attack
Response

 

Assault

 One party uses force or intimidation to force their will on the other and compels them to give in to their demands. Biblically wrong approach.

Exodus 21: 18-19

 Attack Response

 

Murder

 Taking the life of the person who opposes you rather than devising a settlement agreement. Biblically wrong approach.

Leviticus 24: 17, Exodus 21:14

 Attack Response

 

 

 Adapted from: The Peacemaker, Ken Sande,

 

 

 

 

 

What Basis is There For a Non Litigated Divorce?

 

 

 

Christians Divorce at the same rate as non Christians 

CDS recognizes the fact that even Christian marriages often end in divorce. At that time, many couples enter the legal system lacking Christian-based services to protect and guide them. CDS provides arbitration and mediation services to structure a legally-binding divorce while avoiding the cost, time and energy of a trial-based divorce. CDS’s process protects individual privacy ensures adherence to Christian principles during a period of stress and conflict.

 

TO LEARN MORE:  CLICK ON THE LINK "WHAT WE DO" IN THE LEFT COLUMN

We have Full or Part time offices in almost every State (Click on the "Location" tab at the top left for a full list of locations)

 

CDS Regional Headquarters:
 
South East:  Raleigh / Fayetteville, North Carolina
Mid West:    Columbus, Ohio
North East:   New York, New York
For all of our locations, please click on the link on the top LEFT column
 
Christian Divorce Services central number
Phone number:            614-940-1949     
Fax number:                 614-417-1116
E-mail address:           
Michael@ChristianDivorceServices.com